Newbie starting the journey with my dad

Hi there yes im.afraid im.going through the same. Diagnosed august with my dad permanet drain fitted and had first chemo last friday. He still needs draining everyother say how about you. 

Thanks for replying, yes he has fluid drain 3 times a week which started Mon but he decided  not to have no chemo .

The feelings this has stirred up is immense  ,but we still manage to laugh together. 

Bless you yeah my dad had one session but i dont think he will have another his so sick with it and his not eating anyways. Where abouts are you based 

Dad is in his later years and is well at the moment ,so he didnt want to interupt this with  chemo .We are in East anglia.

Take care.

Hi Murph. My father was diagnosed last Wednesday. Lost lots of weight, short of breath and tiredness. It’s just so scary and overwhelming to try and come to terms with this being that Dad has never ever been unwell. I can’t get my head around it. All he’s done is work his whole life since his teens to ensure he provides for his family, never smoked in his life. It all just seems so unfair. Where are you based? 
Dad has opted for chemo/clinical trial. 

hi sorry to hear about your dad. it is a very similiar story my dad has had very good health until his diagnosis. my dad is  not having treatment apart from his chest drain which is drained everyday now. 

at hte beginning of all this i couldnt get my head around it and somedays still cant  and it gets too much.  where abouts are you based ? im in east anglia .

dad is doing ok at the moment .

thanks for replying  feel free to reach out on here  and take care 

Hi Morph sorry this is the same person as lottiem! 
has the drain made his symptoms better? And was it his choice to decline treatment? How does your Dad feel about it all? Mine is scared and it breaks my heart. We are being treated at Wythenshawe in hospital. 

likewise to you 

hi, the drain stops the build up of fluid which is good for his breathing.  my dad is in his eighties and he choose not to have treatment . at the moment he his able to walk and talk with friends and Potter around the house . he didn't want treatment to interrupt that. everyone is different in those decisions.

he has been angry and gone through the why me ,I've worked all my life and it was work that had asbestos  which has given him the mesolithoma.

he has support from mum and family and we talk openly which is difficult at times 

he takes everyday as it comes . 

hope that helps x

Yes Dad had a drain after his biopsy which helped but they removed it unfortunately. Good that your Dad still has his independent and is able to potter and see friends. My Dad is still working but is struggling with it god bless him. Clinging on to that and his identity I guess. He too has worked his whole life as a surveyor from teens to now and he is 73. I just hope his treatment works. We had been so looking forward to my wedding this August but had to postpone due to COVID so we are planning a smaller wedding in Jan so he can be there for us. Xx