My 87 year old FIL was diagnosed with the disease 7 months ago. He also has dementia and the prognosis was that the cancer was most likely in his spine, prostrate and he was give 6 to 12 months to live. He also has skin cancer.
We moved him into a nursing home beginning of May due to lots of issues with his care, his permanent Catherter etc.
In the last 5 days he has had low blood pressure issues and been passing out, he is now refusing any food and drinks and is barely having anything, he is also now bed bound as the nurses said he is too frail to 
move himself. He has lost a stone in 1 month . Sorry for my babbling on, we have been told he is very poorly but I just want to know from others who have gone through this, if this is now looking like end stage for him so I know how to support my husband. He is an only child and our family is very small. It's absolutely heartbreaking to see my FIL like this and to watch my husband worry every single day about the dreaded cal we will eventually receive!
Hi Choompster and a warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your father in law.
I have asbestosis but thankfully it has not developed further but let’s see if any of the group members pick up in your post.
When it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your father in law and indeed yourself you may benefit from joining and posting in our……
Supporting someone with incurable cancer
……. support groups where you will connect with a wide range of members navigating the exact same support challenges.
It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.
The Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
((hugs))
