Further spread

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My secondary lymph node cancer has now spread from the nodes in my abdomen to those in my chest cavity. Presumably it’s going to work its way up and the nodes in my armpits and neck will be next. It might even meet up somewhere with secondary bone cancer in the cervical part of my spine!

Starting to struggle with it all now. Thought if I got all the legal and financial stuff sorted I could ‘enjoy’ life. Did for a while but it‘s requiring more and more effort just to do the every day stuff now.

  • I am sorry to hear you are struggling, please try not to give up just yet 

  • Three months ago my oncologist told me my ovarian cancer had spread to lymph nodes. She said very small though she'd recommend chemo.  I had a four month trip planned with my husband which I wanted to go on (I feel good except tired in morning).  I also have BRACA gene and they want to do biopsy on my left side under arm pit to check the breast.  I was told I have a nodule on one side of thyroid which they want to do another biopsy on.  I was told to go enjoy the trip with my husband and get the biopsies which I get back (which is next month, end of March 2026).  I started to get concerned, I wasn't before I left because oncologist didn't seem concerned, except the told me she'd like to do the chemo.
    I will get the other biopsies when we get back.  I haven't been worried about it, but just started thinking about things (which I'm not exactly sure what to think about bc I don't know).  I have no idea what happens if you don't get the chemo except cancer will spread.
    I just needed to get that out.  It's the first time I've shared like that and recognized it could be a reality I don't want to go through again.  thanks  

  • I'm not surprised that you are struggling with it all, it's massive what you're trying to process.

    Have you thought about asking for some support in the way of counselling or other therapy? 

    I'm so sorry that you are have received such awful news. 

  • Hi Lee … we’re in the motorhome, supposed to go back to Toledo in about 1 month. I’ve been looking at a couple of cancer centers. I can get biopsies don’t there if I want. Was also thinking of second opinion. 
    The only symptom right now is I am very tired in the morning (hard to get up until about 8:00) then sometimes I get lightheaded, which I think maybe from not enough water.
    Thanks for your concern.  I guess I’m not ready to admit because … I guess I just don’t want to think about it without seeing more results.

    I know, sounds like denial.  When I get back to Toledo or get more tests done here, I will probably get some kind of therapist.  I will keep you posted.