Hello all,
My name is Stuart and I am new to this group and am reeling. For the last 3 months I had what I thought was a trapped nerve in my neck. I tried everything from an osteopath to injections. Every cream and gel under the sun.
Last Friday I got the results of the MRI - I have cancer in my vertebrae which has pushed the marrow out causing the pinched or trapped nerve. Now that has absolutely knocked me for six but I then told that this is a secondary cancer and they will have to do blood and CT scans to find the primary. The blood tests show normal bloods, Prostate and thyroid, but abnormal liver and bones. I saw my doctor tonight and she thinks the liver abnormality is down to a previous fatty liver. She said that she is fairly certain I don’t have pancreatic cancer but I probably have lung cancer or bowel cancer.
i have a CT scan on Thursday and she thinks we will have an answer by Monday at the latest.
I am terrified by the whole scenario. I am 55, a non drinker, haven’t smoked for over 10 years. I have a partner with MS who is reliant upon me and a 79 year old mother who I do everything for who I’ve not been able to tell yet.
i am a lawyer for the civil service and don’t know whether I will be a live in 12 weeks, 12 months or 12 years. I am so sorry to be melodramatic but I just don’t know what to do. Do I sell my record collection immediately to raise money, send back my recently purchased car or make funeral arrangements.
i just don’t know what to do for the best
I am so sorry you have had this diagnosis.
My husband was diagnosed with lung cancer in 2024.
He had a bad reaction to immunotherapy which is rare.
He like you was confused as to what he should do as he is my carer also.
We worked together on getting through a very difficult year and all I can tell you is take each day as it comes I tried to stay positive and we have learnt just how much development in treatment has moved forward.
I don’t think anyone here will not have been as worried as you are now. Wait until you have got your results of the scan and you will get so much help and support from oncology.
My husband didn’t believe the results of his last pet scan until he saw it written down and I am pleased to tell you he now does not have to have a scan for 3 months.
Please stay as positive as you can and talk to your wife as she will want to support you I am sure. We have found ways to get the help I need.,
My husband is playing golf again and not too badly.
A day at a time and I will be thinking of you.
Whatever cancer throws your way, we’re right there with you.
We’re here to provide physical, financial and emotional support.
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