Hello everyone, not the first place I’d have chosen to meet you

Give her all the love, support and encouragement that you can. Back in the early 70's my wife had ovarian cancer. Then it returned in her kidneys and liver. She had dialysis then a transplant.

In 2023 I had 80mm bowel removed, then it returned in my lung in 24 it was her turn to return the favour. We are still together. Let her talk in her own time but assure her lots of us on here are survivors.

Hi Tobytails 

welcome to the group, but sorry you have found yourself here. It is hard when someone doesn’t want to talk about their situation. If there are things that you want to say to her, but are finding it hard to broach the subject, maybe write her a letter with how you are feeling. It may encourage her to open up. But as Jagman  has said, all you can do is support her. She is probably trying to protect you. 

As well as here in the lung group where you can come and chat whenever you like, can I also suggest you join the Carers only forum  where you might find someone in a similar situation to yourself. The MacMillan support line is also available 7 days a week from 8am until 8pm on 0808 808 00 00.

Wishing you and your wife a very happy 55th summer! 

Thanks for that very encouraging reply Jagman. Sad to read though, you and your good wife have been through the mangle and back again. I hope your future is filled with happiness and better times.

Hi Chellesimo, thank you so much for your response. I’ll keep on keeping on, we’ve been through só much, over the years as you can imagine, this is just another hurdle.