Want to talk but don’t want to talk

It's not a paper exercise, lots of us on here have benefitted from the skill of the Consultants and survived. I've been there twice myself. You must stay strong for your son. 

Yes, I've been there twice myself, first was breast cancer in 1991, second in lung 2023 and still on follow ups....all positive going forward. 

Oh don’t get me wrong I am staying strong in front of him and showing nothing but positivity, but it’s not what I’m feeling, just feel so sad

At first, from the first couple of lines from your comment, I thought you where the person diagnosed with cancer. Yes you will be angry, and yes you will be very sad, but your son now needs your support and strength to get through this, hard though it will be. You should talk with him about it, what he has been diagnosed with and treatments going forward, it will help both of you. It doesn't matter if you cry, that shows how much you love and want to protect him. 

Please don't think your son's treatment is a "paper exercise", if you give your son the same impression it might make him lose hope, whereas he needs to be positive.  These treatments save lives, and the dedication and care from any cancer centre from the consultant oncologists down to the cancer care nurse specialists are second to none, and many on here will testify to that.

Please keep in touch with us all on here, we have all been through the same, with some more than once. 

Best wishes to you and your son.

He has been dealt a bit of a shit hand to be honest, lung cancer that has spread to both lungs and his liver and bone cancer detected in his hip, 12 months prognosis with chemo but they’ve said because of his age the chemo might have a better reaction, but who knows, just seems to be one thing after the other 

Hi MarkP. Cannot begin to understand how you feel at the moment. In my case, my 57 year old partner was told she was in remission in November after a 9 month struggle with bowel and liver cancer. Went for her first 3-month check up yesterday expecting it to be routine only to be told it's been found in both lungs with a prognosis of 12-24 months with chemo. The same as you, I am incredibly sad, angry, scared - everything i felt last year but this time with the worst outcome at the end. Whilst I have resolved to be there every step of the way for her, it doesn't make it any less frightening. Literally all we can do is trust the professionals and be there for our loved ones. But it's not nice feeling so helpless.