When I was first diagnosed just over two years ago I couldn’t see the point in buying new clothes. I started using Vinted because I had lost 5 stone and everything was too big (except my shoes they were too small due to clubbing of my toes) so needed new shoes too. It was then that I discovered Temu and Shein. My home is filling with every kitchen gadget that is known to man and my husband constantly tells me I’ve got to stop. I can’t. I’m wondering if it’s so kind of ‘nest building for when I’m not here anymore. Does anyone else have anything similar?
Hi Somick
Having recently been given a T4 cancer diagnosis following successful treatment and surgery 4 years ago of triple negative breast cancer (it’s now spread to my lung, liver and peritoneum), I can identify with your shopping urges.
Anything from ordering a bin on Amazon at 3am, to arranging for turf to be laid on an area that’s been laid bare for the best part of 4 years!
There could be merit in the nesting instinct, wanting to leave things in order for those we will leave behind. But selfishly, I think it’s also a reaction to having been relatively frugal and now thinking bollocks to it. If this isn’t a rainy day then I don’t know what is!
I’ve also had a mental mind shift. This is now my retirement, shouldn’t I get to enjoy it. This also means splurging on meals out, afternoon Everyman cinema visits (if you haven’t done that yet - I recommend it - no more Odeon for me!)
I’ve just booked for our family (I have 3 boys - 23,19 and 14) to visit a Michelin Star restaurant as we’re all foodies. It will bankrupt me - but as they say - shrouds don’t come with pockets!
As for clothes, I identify with the weight loss so it’s not been a priority area - but I’m sure it will make it onto the list.
So, imo, whatever the motivation - if it makes you feel good, and you can afford to do it - go for it! There’s so little joy that if you find a bit, you need to grab it with both hands 
