End of life

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Hi all

my husband has been put on end of life pathway with brain and bone mets we are ok with this have talked about wishes etc what I am really struggling with is the brain mets are causing confusion and anger lots of anger! It has become a daily battle to get him to take his meds I dispense them and leave them for him to take when I ask he says he has then I find them later on somewhere else I can’t sit over him to watch him take them as this makes him angry and he had in the past week made both myself and my daughter cry with his words I know it’s the cancer in his brain but honestly don’t know how we can manage this for a sustained period anyone been here got a magic cure to make everything nice again! Sorry a bit heavy for a first time post but just need to get it off my chest I’m a strong independent woman ( and a nurse to boot!) who does not accept help easily!

  • Hi 

    So sorry to hear all what you are all going through. My sisters husband had brain mets and was the same with his temper and harsh words. We are nurses too and sometimes I think that makes us think we should be stronger.  

    My mum also has brsin mets now so we are going through it all again. 

    Im thinking if the tablets are pain relief coukd he have a patch ? Then he doesn't have to take tablets. Can you speak to someone from palliative care team as maybe some of his anger is fear . 

    Take care of yourself xx