My husband has been diagnosed with a stage lung cancer in his left lung with compromised lymph nodes and stage 1 tumour in his right.
He has taken his diagnosis very badly and finds it very hard to talk about it all.
Hi Merri
welcome to the group but sorry to hear about your husband. Getting a cancer diagnosis is very hard, and people react in different ways. Some people do find it hard to talk about it, especially with loved ones. I wonder if your husband would be open to talking to a stranger? Talking things through can help to put perspective on the situation. MacMillan offer a buddy service, where the person with the diagnosis is matched up with a volunteer, who will call you once a week, for a chat and a catchup. People have found this service very useful especially at the beginning of their journey.
Accessing peer support in a different way- Macmillan Buddies: what is it and how to get support
click on the link above and it will take you to the page that explains the service, with links to apply.
Hello Merri,
McMillan has a forum just for carers so perhaps this could be helpful and supportive for you. I believe that Maggies also can provide support for carers of those with cancer.
I know when I knew I had cancer, I really didn’t want to talk about it although I did let my family know. My partner was very supportive but to be honest I just wanted to get on with it without a lot of fuss. It was a very emotional time all round.
Your daughter sounds very helpful and down to earth and having someone close who can be there for you is very lovely. If you have questions you want to ask about having cancer just continue to ask here.
Hopefully the side effects of your husband’s treatment will subside and he will be more willing to confide in you.
With love Daisy 
Hi Merri, Daisychain is correct, we do have aCarers only forum as well as a Family and friends forum which you can join. You can also call the MacMillan support line yourself for support on 0808 808 00 00.
Do you have a maggies centre near you? These are usually near to the hospitals, these are great places to pop into for a chat, they support anyone affected by cancer, the patient as well as family members.
Daisy. Thank you for your kind words (got it right today 
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My daughters are amazingly supportive, I couldn’t get through without them. One is a cardiac consultant and the other is a deputy head at a special needs school. Phil seems more settled today. I’ll take that! Xxx
Hello again,
I’m so happy that you have two wonderful daughters. My daughters really stepped up with their individual talents. I found that fruit like oranges and chewy sweets like starburst were helping in taking the unpleasant taste from my mouth due to chemo. I hope Phil’s chemo is going better now. Having an upset digestive tract is just not fun when the chemo hits.
Wishing all the best to both of you Daisy
