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Hi Bennycat welcome to the group, but sorry to hear about your mum. That is a huge secret for you to keep from your sister. Are you close? How do you think she will feel once she does find out that you knew all along. 
Can you have a chat with your mum and tell her that you think your sister should know, and how you would feel if they had kept it from you. It will also help you to have someone to talk with, who knows what mum is going through.

Hello there thank you for your message. We aren't close sadly rift for many years not without trying on my part. I think she should know but I am fearful she will only visit because of the illness not because she wants to. I'll try and speak to my mum but ultimately it's up to her really. I would feel sad not to know . Thank you it is good to hear another perspective and kind words xx

Hi I'd say depends on what the rift was about. Plenty of families hard quite deep rifts, not speaking due to them for years.

Thank you yes jealousy has been one thing and lack of communication. I communicate via her husband which makes it difficult and even he sees how awkward she can be. Families hey?!  

It's life I'm afraid I don't know any family that hasn't some sort of rift.

Think carefully as you might end up in a rift with your mum.

Thanks yes my priority is my mum just wondered if anyone here had a similar problem and how they tackled it.