Mum

Hey, it is the hardest time waiting until you get that consultant appointment. Hang in there, I know exactly how that wait feels. My mum was diagnosed with cervical cancer in July that has spread to her lungs and bones. It's a rough ride, take care of yourself in all of this too though. Xx

Good morning Cornish pasty

I must say I love your name well being a good lover it made me smile.

If you tap my avatar you can read about my cancer, I have lung cancer with bone mets, so I'm in the same position as your mum. My treatment plan consists of chemotherapy and immunotherapy for 3 months at the beginning of treatment and I have continued with immunotherapy for 18 months. The wait to see the consultant will seem a long time, but they will be gathering all the information needed to formulate a treatment for your mum so try not to worry to much easier said than done I know.

Treatment is different for everyone even if they have the same diagnosis. I won't say any treatment is easy and they can all have side effects that differ from person to person, there will be good and bad days going through treatment, sticking with it is the key and when it is a bad day come to this forum and chat, there is always someone who will lend and ear and some good advice so use it, I assure you it helps you get through the bad days. You will also find as your mum moves through the process the cancer becomes less important and it becomes more about living life in a different way, my best advice is never give up, don't let the cancer dominate life, learn how to live with it and get on with enjoying every moment have fun. I know that seems hard to do at the moment but you and your mum will get there, I really do know how hard it is at the beginning so if you want to chat please feel free to message.

In the meantime take care sending you a hug if you need it

Donna

Hi Cornish Pasty, I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. Sadly I do know how you’re feeling. My mum was diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer (adenocarcinoma)  in November 2020, she had an upper right lobectomy (VATS) in January 2021, we’ve recently been given the news that her cancer has returned in the lower right lobe and mediastinum and also spread to liver and bones. She lives with me, my husband and our 2 girls (15, 9). We don’t see the oncologist till the 14th, but we have been told she can’t have surgery and it can’t be cured, as she is EGFR positive, she could be eligible for a targeted treatment. 
I too am devastated. My mum is more breathless and seems to be in some pain (but she says she’s isn’t). 
I work full time and I had to have some time off this week as it all got too much for me. 
please be kind to yourself. I’m taking each day as it comes. The waiting is the worst. Please reach out if you need to chat. Take care x