Hi, my 85 yr old mum has been diagnosed with lung cancer and breast cancer. She hasn’t been offered any treatment for the lung cancer and has been placed under the care of the local hospice.
They call every week or so for an update of mums condition but I am unclear as to when will she will be taken to the hospice. She lives alone and her condition is deteriorating slowly but surely. I’m wondering if they decide when she needs to be admitted into their care or if they are waiting for me to make a decision.
Hi Tinab68 welcome to the group, but I am so sorry to hear about your mum.This must be very hard for you, I know how scared I was when my mum was at end of life care. We managed to keep my mum at home for as long as we could, as that was her wish, but she ended up going to the hospice for the last 24 hours of her life.
Do not be afraid to talk to the hospice staff and ask them what the expectations are for your mum. The staff at hospices are always very approachable. I will also put a link below with some information about caring for someone with a terminal cancer. I thought you may find it helpful.
Caring for someone with an incurable illness
You can also call the Macmillan support line on 0808 808 00 00. They are available 7 days a week from 8am until 8pm.
Oh your poor mum. A urine infection can be nasty, and will make her feel very unwell and confused. I am sorry she had a fall, that must of been very upsetting for her, especially as the carers were unable to help her up!
I think when we hear hospice care we assume it means end of life is near, but this is not the case. Hospice care is a style of care which is provided at home to provide their medical and emotional needs. As mums health does decline she may have nurses coming to her home as well as the carers, and a decision for her to move to the hospice will probably only be when her pain can no longer be controlled at home. Have you spoken to anyone in her medical team about an expected time scale?
Here in the lung group you will find lots of people who are undergoing treatment and are not at the stage that your mum is sadly at, but there is another group here on the online community you may want to join where you can chat to people in a similar situation to yourself.
Supporting someone with incurable cancer forum
I hope mums water infection is sorted quickly and she is more comfortable at home.
