In need of support

Hi Sades a very warm welcome to the group, but sorry you find yourself here. Is it post surgery you are struggling or emotionally? 

Hi Maya. Thanks for your reply. Yes just lots of things to learn and come to grips with post surgeery. X

There are a few people in the group who have had surgery so I am sure someone will be along to share their experience with you soon. 

If you feel that you need to talk to someone at Macmillan, the support line is open 7 days a week from 8am until 8pm on 0808 808 00 00. It is a free call number and completely confidential. X 

Hi Sades,

What a shock for you but so glad your tumour was caught early. I had an upper right lobectomy last year in May. I felt physically ok at post surgery 6 weeks on but rather low. It was as if my whole life had been turned upside down. I was offered chemo ( my choice) and decided not to go ahead. My sleeping was not good at the time, anxiety I think. My GP was so helpful. She gave me some antidepressants to help me relax and sleep better. This was a real help. I feel mentally much better now. At the time I also tried to keep my mind busy with other activities. 
All the best to you for a swift recovery 
Love xx

hi ,I had a lobectomy last july ,middle lobe for a 18mm nodule ,i too struggeled a little more with the things i could not do ,mainly frustration ,i did not want to feel ill and doing things even going for a walk made me feel better ,My head was all over the place and felt down for awhile ,but i have now had my 6 month follow up and everything is looking goood ,ask for help ,GP can be helpful if you tell them you are struggling and of course there is always someone here to talk to

Hi Sades, I am 53 and had upper right lobectomy on 24th march This is my 3rd primary cancer (all caught early)  in 7yrs. Initially I seemed to be recovering well but then had the worst week last week. Pain from ( piles, exaggerated with pain killers) not sleeping, headache and crying constantly. Not at all like me . My sister and hubby convinced me to go to Dr rather than wait for post op ampt as I had planned! Well I was able to make an apmt not at my own surgery but one connected. The GP I saw was amazing, took time to listen,and was very thorough - I wailed my way through the 40 mins  And we agreed a plan for changes of drugs, pan relief etc. 

I have to tell you the difference in the last 3 days is amazing, I think just letting it all out, being heard and my feelings validated have helped as well as the change in meds. It’s hard when you have a family, I know I felt the need to be “ok, happy” so my hubby and daughters were too. But after what we have all been through it is as the saying goes Ok to NOT be ok!

I hope you are able to speak to someone and are feeling a little better xx

Blimey JolouHG 

Three primary Cancers I am feeling sorry for self with two. 
Lower lobectomy and wedge from top right March 7th 2023

Lower anterior resection Aug 2021 reversal Sep 2022 

 I’m fed up. Completely fed up with appointments and waiting rooms and hospital beds 

On top of that I feel guilty because I am very blessed to be caught early. 

I’m on happy pills and had therapy I’m just low. I honestly think the grey skies aren helping

Take cate xx

Aww Ann, mine were breast, womb and lung and I think we are entitled to be fed up now and again, like you the battle was I am so very lucky that each time it has been caught early but this time for some reason people saying that it just wound me up… I wanted to scream, enough already, I don’t want any cancer ever again never mind it’s early!!

I have some sessions booked through cancer support, reflexology etc and I hear the weather will brighten. Let’s hope we are in for a good few days. 

Take care 

Jo x

Hi Jo

We should start a club here called grumble group! It would wind me up being told I’m LUCKY. Actually I am not lucky my bowel consultant was concerned about my lungs and referred me. So it’s not luck it’s my amazing consultant 

Ive read here that someone had FIVE primary’s.

Lets hope we stick to what we’ve had a be left alone

Best wishes Ann xx

Can I join the club too.lol .love the humour  x