Son newly diagnosed

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My 45 year old son was diagnosed this week.

He attended A+E 2 weeks ago with chest pain, an xray showed a blood clot in the lung so ct scan was booked next day. We werr devasted to be told he had secondary cancer in his liver with no signs of the primary.  A full body scan revealed nothing else. A swelling in his neck at jaw line was booked for scan and biopsy. The doctors initial thoughts were Lymphoma.

Biopsy results yesterday floored us when after initially being told his lungs were clear he was told he had Adenocarcinoma of the lung.

I was diagnosed 1st Dec with breast cancer had lumpectomy and radiotherapy and am fine. However week before my treatment finish my husband went to doctors with pain in his side and feeling full quickly. Long story short, he was diagnosed 28th Feb with colon cancer which had spread to lungs and liver. He died on 21st April his 77th birthday 8 weeks after diagnosis. We had already lost our middle son suddenly at 25 with a brain aneurism. 

 My son is devastated,  he is married with  14 and 11 year old sons. I dont know how I am going to get through this and give him the help he and his family needs.

  • I can completely understand what you are going through, Stay strong for your son and provide him every comfort that you can, Its primary lung cancer and can be treated. I am so sorry to hear that many people have been affected in your family

    Ghaza

  • Hi Callygran

    So sorry to hear about your son. It sounds as if your family  are all having an incredibly tough time of it.  Life is so unfair at times.

    The people on here are wonderful and so supportive so you've come to the right place.

    I'm still fairly new myself and only found out two weeks ago, so am still  in the tearful, shocked and angry stage.  In fact I hate this weekend with everybody celebrating. It seems to highlight my own despair.

    Not helped by being in pain. And can't get hold of anybody to help me sort it out.

    Huge hugs to you. Xxx

  • Thank you Harebelle and Ghaz. It's great to have this outlet.  Feeling slightly better today. 

    Spent all day yesterday in pj's,  speaking to nobody. But messaged my extended family with the news last night. My eldest son spent the day with his brother and I think this helped him. He's feeling bit more positive today and his pain has eased.

    I visited him earlier, although had to drive around for 1/2 hour 1st to get myself together, but was fine. He is definitely in a better mind today, hopefully this continues and we don't have to wait to long for a treatment plan.

    Can totally understand your despair Harebelle, we had the same problem with my husband during the Easter holidays, the pain ect doesn't take holidays. Hope you get something sorted quickly xxx