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Hi Vectradog, Sorry you are here.  Just your story kinda matched with me but it's my Dad, Diagnosed with lung cancer Oct 2020, He also has chronic COPD, my Dad is doing really well, we are not sure of the type of cancer, again because he wouldn't cope with any procedures.  He struggles to go up the stairs or any tasks and is very limited he is on Oramorph.  All you can do is just be there to do what she needs you to do and to let her know how much you love her.  Patience is hard when you feel you have so much to do.  I am very grateful to spend time, just talking and listening to my Dad and his stories.

I joined this site as my Mum has SCLC and only months to live and my Dad is so devoted to my Mum and vice versa and I honest believe he will give up and follow her.  He is just waiting on her. My Dad is 80 and retired due to Covid, my Mum 78 retired last July due to her cancer, they are angry as this wasn't supposed to be like this either. We are mad as we have not spent quality time with them as they always worked. But!!!! we are now grateful for the time we do have and just make every moment last.

You are not alone. Talk to her, be honest about your thoughts and worries, she may realise that she has more to live for than she thinks.

One day at a time

Take Care, T xx

Thanks Tippy it's nice to know there are others in our situation, it certainly feels a lonely existence at times.

We have three grown up children with families, they are all marvellous, I certainly don't know what I what we would have done without them.

Thanks Davex

Hi Dave sorry you have had to be here.

You are there for her, I would get in touch with the GP, they can have district nurses come out to her.

Only the local Hospice, and i have not said that as a last resort, but they are very good for pain management, and know how to alter different medications, they where my life line when hubby was at home for sorting out his pain.

Worth a try,  Take Care Ellie x