I'm telling my 27 year old daughter tommorow that I have lung cancer spread to a lymph nodee and perhaps one of my breasts and colon. She had her own cancer diagnosis February last year 2020 Ocular melanoma and had to quit her job as emotionally it was too much for her. She's now getting back on her feet and applying for new jobs she has an MRi every 6 months. How do I tell her ? Is anyone else on here in a similar position? I'm new on here and have my first treatment appointment tommorow I will be having chemotherapy and immunotherapy but to be honest my daughter is my biggest concern at the moment How do I shatter her world again ?
Hi Delidi welcome to the group, but so sorry you find yourself here. It is always so hard telling children, no matter what their age is, and this is heart breaking for you, especially after what your daughter has been through herself.
In my situation, I have always been honest and told my girls everything. I was diagnosed exactly one year after my mum passed away from ovarian cancer, so they were only just getting over the loss of their Grandma. My youngest was 14 and had some counselling which really helped. I couldn't hide anything from them, they knew something was going on, it was obvious with how unwell I was at the time.
There is no easy way to tell her, but maybe just tell her what you know at the moment. Remember the Macmillan support line is there for you and your daughter if either of you need to talk. Call 0808 808 00 00 they are available 7 days a week from 8am until 8pm.
