Dads not ok

FormerMember
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He’s been unwell for roughly 10 years and took medical retirement, he’s always suffered with a slipped disc and a liver problem which unfortunately is mostly his own fault as he self medicated the back pain with alcohol. He’s smoked for around 40 years and now the big C has got him. He admitted he’d been coughing up blood for weeks but didn’t want to tell anyone as he knew we’d worry.

Now he’s been diognosed with advance lung cancer, surgery isn’t possible and nor is chemotherapy. The liver condition means he will just bleed to death basically. 

I suppose I am just a bit lost, I’m struggling without a timescale knowin if we have 10 years or 2 months and worrying I’m wasting time worrying if that makes any sense. 

I’m 26 and I’ve never lost anyone close to me.

Thanks for reading x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi 

    I am really sorry that your having to go through this . I feel we are in the same boat my dad also has terminal double lung cancer and Iam caring for him he's doing okay right now but i know it's going to get worse hoping we find the help and support we need here .

    Teresa

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Thanks for replying. It’s comforting to know I’m not alone, I have a sister too but she’s a single mum and her life is so busy. My dad got the answer he needed today and they confirmed it is months and radiotherapy probably is useless. Just absolutely heartbroken. 

    I hope the outlook for your dad is better.

    Jo xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Hi Jo

    So sorry about your dad's diagnosis but at least now you know what your dealing with. Unfortunately my dad is terminal we have an appointment at hospital on 12th when they will be able to tell us what time he has left it's not something am looking forward to but I need to know. I know it's hard to know your loved one has a limited time I lost my mum to cancer 21years ago and although we knew it was coming it still hard to accept. I am a good bit older than you but nothing like that matters when it comes to the loss of a loved one. I hope you find the strength you need to get through this and get the support you need MacMillan offer a lot of support reach out and you will find it.

    Teresa x