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Hiya my husband has been diagnosed with lung cancer 22 oct. Hes only 47. Its spread to his glands. Lining of lung and the bones in his spine thanks to the gp. His pain has been ongoing for 18 months with no tests and no pain relief that works. Im loosing my mind. Im so worried im going to wake up 1 morning soon and hel not be breathing. I constanly have that anxious feeling in my chest. Dont know what to tell my 9 year old. Or what to do about my finances as hes stopped working. Dont know where to start. And it feels like the hospital are dragging there feet in coming up with an appointment to see oncology or even start treatment. They told him hes now terminal. The waiting is just awful. They have said we have been refered to mental heath and the mcmillan district nurses, but i hate waiting. Everything in our lives i have control over and this isnt something i can control and i dont know how to or where to begin. We r supposed to be going on a holiday of a life time in 3 weeks to see santa in lapland. Dont know what to do about that either and i know its not a priority but it is to my 9 year old shel be devestated if we cant go. Does any1 have any advise pls?

Rosebud62 4 months ago

Awww so sorry to hear your going throu a hell of alot I think the first thing you could do is get an appointment with the macmillian nurses they are excellent and can advise you with alit of the problems you have I would still take your little one away it could be something you need it will give you a fresh look at things hope this helps love xx

Sanguinesse 4 months ago

I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis. How could the GP not send him for tests and let him struggle for 18 months.

I sometimes think some GP's should be struck off. Many year's ago I went to my GP at age 40 with weird symptoms and weight loss. He asked my age, did not examine me and just said "oh it's the menopause" and just prescribed HRT, which, having faith in the GP, I took regularly for six months but the symptoms did not go away. I eventually discovered a lump in my breast and I went to see a different GP in the same practice, he examined me and sent an urgent referral to the hospital. After tests I was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer and spread into my lymph nodes. The oncologist said if the first GP had examined and referred me I would have had less invasive action surgically and a better recovery time.

Regarding your nine year old, I personally would explain that her daddy is very ill and will not be able to travel, which, by the way you have described his physical condition and his diagnosis, this is probably the truth. I'm sure as a nine year old she will understand, she may be upset, but at the end of the day your husband takes priority. Besides, your husband will be getting treatment and will probably be advised not to travel.

This is devastating news for you and your husband, and I hope you both get the support you both need. Contact the DWP and explain your circumstances regarding your finances, there are benefits you can access in cases like this.

Best wishes to you both.

Ann

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