End of life

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Hi, my dad had a bleed on the brain 5 weeks ago, and whilst in hospital they discovered it was lung cancer that metastasised to the brain.
they sent him home after 3 weeks in hospital with no care plan and he lives alone. And unfortunately within that time took a serious decline and is not back in hospital. We have since found out theris not treatment available for him and he has about 2 months left

im absolutely devastated how quick this has happened and he’s still sound minded and losing his dignity quick. He’s so so upset but I’m not sure he understands he’s not got long left. I’m strugglingnd I don’t know what to do I feel helpless. My heart is breaking in a million pieces over him. He’s only 65. How do I help him and myself and my sister understand all of this. It’s truly a nightmaree all want to wake up from. I can’t accept he will be gone soon. How can he be okay 6 weeks ago and now be end of life. I just don’t know what to do

Kegsy 11 months ago

Hi Dexter 123

So very, very sorry that you and your family find yourselves in this situation.

I have no experience of this situation; my only advice is to ensure they do not discharge Dad until a comprehensive end of life care plan is in place.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

Kegsy x

"If you are going through hell, keep going" ; Sir Winston Churchill

" Cancer may take my life; however it will not become my life" Kegsy August 2011

gggirl8 11 months ago

I am so sorry to read this, Dexter. Words cannot express how devastating this is.

However, you WILL survive this. I’ve been through many bad situations with my parents, illnesses and funerals, that I did not think I would be able to go through, but I did, so trust me. The brain has an amazing capacity for adapting to any situation.

Take each day as it comes and don’t think too much about the future. I hope your father will be as comfortable as he can be. This sh*t is out of our control.

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