I managed to read your post before you took it down and I can understand your anger of getting no support as I don't get much either , it does get you down but I just think " well mother just get on with it " but I'm fed up with the response of " you'll be fine " from family when they do acknowledge the fact I have cancer , one " son " wishes I was dead but Ithat made me more determined to stay alive , even if only to p***s him off . Take care of yourself and be strong x
Oh, Alexi, I get where you're coming from. I suppose we all go through phases with how we feel and how we cope with it all. It's maybe why we are drawn to this place - we can say things here we wouldn't say anywhere in real life? Thanks for your good wishes, and Take good care xx
Hi Ails , our feelings are like being on the big dipper without even leaving our armchairs some downs but also some highs but we get through it . I can't remember I what you said about yours, I was more taken that there was someone else , who , like me lacked support but as you say we can come on here and there will be someone we can talk to . Take care and be strong x
aw thank you, Alexi. I'm okish i think. I had the op, in for 8 days, out with chest drain, got readmitted 3 days later when i went to have it checked and removed due to uncontrolled intense pain when at home. apparently an Infection in drain, feeling pretty rough. Electrolytes wont come back up, inflammatory markers won't go down. but they agreed to discharge me so I could go to my planned thyroid biopsy in another city tomorrow.. I'm awful at being ill and wish i still had a husband so I could get a hug. Maybe I should buy a dog. People keep saying "youre a fighter, you can do this" But honestly with the pain im in now and the prospect of more I feel it's insane to want to prolong it. hopefully tomorrow will be a breeze and i snap out of self pity mode. Majorly impressed by people who have the ability to sat positive through this cos it's intolerable. But thanks so much for asking and sorry to be miseable participant.
I do hope youre feeling more well, accepting and positive??
Hi Ails , that's the hard part done , I mean getting through operation , I've read of a few that go home with drains and some like you that have bother with it , I only had mine in 2 days although I was in hospital for 12 days due to lung not inflating , blood inr ( I'm on warfarin) then a slight infection .
What pain meds are you on , make sure you take them on a regular basis , in hosp I was so doped up on morphine I was hallucinating, me and a "wee woman" had a couple of conversations.
Is that not toxic positivity when people say " you're a fighter you can do this " , my son says " you've beat it before you'll beat it again " or " you'll be fine "
Remember you have had major surgery so it will take time for your body to recover , hopefully now drain is out and on antibiotics things will start to ease up but rest when you can and do your breathing exercises and if like me the meds will let have a wee sleep in the afternoons , sleep is a good healer , that's what my mother always told me .
