Hi.
My partner is currently in a hospice , has been for 3 weeks as he was really ill and would not eat drink or take meds, i became worried,anxiuous and was not coping at all due to the excessive worry of it all.We had discussed him going into a hospice as and when the time came and it came. He is very well looked after and after being quite ill on going there he has improved in strength and eating. My worry is now that he has now changed his mind and wants to come home, they said they will asses the home here first, but in honesty i would rather he stay there, i feel he is safe and cared for.Our house is only small and i cant see a bed being put anywhere for his needs and i feel he would revert to not eating again and not drinking as he refuses what i offer him. i am worried sick if they assess him able to come home as i felt i was falling apart at the seams before he went in. The prognosis they gave him was weeks/ months. im just so so scared of how it was before and making me ill too.
Hi MissCJ I am so sorry you are going through this. It is scary looking after someone with terminal cancer, we tried to keep my mum home, but she passed in the hospice in the end.
You need to speak to the people in the hospice. Tell them that you don’t feel that you can cope. You can’t keep these feeling bottled up. They might be thinking that it is also your wish to get him home. You will feel better once you have discussed it with them.
You can also call the Macmillan support line and speak to someone there. They are open 7 days a week from 8am until 8pm on 0808 808 00 00. I wish you all the very best x
