Hello
Not sure where to start but ill try and explain.
4 weeks ago my 82 fit healthy dad thought he might of had a stroke due to balance problems.
Mum called gp who said it sounds unlikely and see how it goes. 2 weeks later same happened so gp sent to a and e where he was dianosed with a stroke. Also had a chest xray which showed a legion.
Sent home after 2 days with appointment for scans in around 6 weeks. And highdose asprin.
Anyway he found sometimes in bed he had very uncomfortable backpain so on saturday morning he went to a and e for pain relief was given co codomol and sent home with a letter saying about stroke and lung legion.
Come satirday even he had a wash and was sitting on bed and slipped off, told mum he thought he had had another stroke so mum called ambulance. They comfirmed posible stroke and took him back to a and e.
Was put on stroke ward and dr said scan showed a stroke and signs of a previous stroke and he was having a seizure due to the stroke.
Come tuesday mum called ward to see how he was doing as he doeant hear to well on the phone.
Who ever answered phone said oh no its not a stroke its a tumor on the brain. Obviously mum very upset and they said dr would call.
Call from junior dr who said he has lung cancer in brain lung and liver and 2 months to live. She asked if he had had a stroke and dr said he didnt know.
Another dr went to see him yesterday and told him he has 6 to 8 weeks to live and there woudl be a meeting today. He called mum and also asked dr to call her but no one has.
We are litrally lost apart from a bite of numbness he hasnt got a single symptom. He cooks walks dog and is a very keen gardener.
Anyone got any advice.
Dear Ollie
I am so sorry to read of your father's diagnosis.
I cannot believe they missed all of the signs. Within your first paragraph I could see all the signs and exactly what you would then write. I bet you and your family must feel so let down by the medical team and how badly they have handled this throughout.
I would suggest getting in touch with your father's GP to get him referred for anything he might need (i.e hospice support etc). You can also contact Macmillan here freephone 8am - 8pm 0808 800 00 00 and they can give you lots of information on places of support in your area for not only your Dad but also your Mum and for you. You all must remember yourselves in all that is going on.
The brain mets will be causing him the balance issues and possibly not being able to hear too well (dependent where the tumour is). He may benefit from some medications, i.e. anti sickness. but if he still has an appetite and not throwing up those are both good signs. But please be careful if he is up and about doing things as the tumour can cause pressure and potential seizures too.
A lack of symptoms is quite common and to look for some sort of silver lining the fact he is not in pain or feeling symptoms can be that little bit of light to be had right now, though harder for all of you to digest this shocking news.
We are all here to help you through.
Take care
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