My partner was diagnosed with lung cancer this time last year and had a partial lobectomy. She was diagnosed with adenocarcinoma's of the brain just a few days ago after suffering some weakness and other symptoms.
She is not very strong and has lost some weight, she is currently in hospital and just to complicate matters we are expats living in Italy.
I understand that her time is limited and I am still going through the anger and upset of knowing she will not be part of my life within a few years or months.
Can any of you guys offer any advice about her care when she comes home? I have always considered myself strong and capable but I worry I might just get things wrong, I know it's a horses for courses syndrome here but any advice would be very welcome.
Also, I feel utterly destroyed by this, as if I cannot bear losing my girl and I am very worried I will fail her in some way let her down, I'm weeping as I am typing this cursing at myself inside to 'man up' but this kind of pre-death grief is something I had never considered. Her diagnosis was three days ago.
Dear mccmcc
I am so sorry to hear that 
Are the hospital going to give you regular updates or can you also be updated by the oncologist?
It must be so hard that you cannot communicate directly with her. I know when I was having treatment etc I went very very quiet on people. People kept trying to keep in touch but the energy it took to read and reply was a bit much for me. Hoping she has a better day and can reply to you today.
Not selfish at all, we all want as much time as possible and I wish that you get that too.
Sorry about my profile, it isn't intended to make people upset.
Please keep in touch with us the hospital and most importantly your partner. Even though she may not reply, she may still be able to read them or get a nurse to read them to her and I am sure she will find it heart warming to know you are thinking of her.
