Controlling emotions when parent has nsclc

Hi Carly 

There are many more people on this that will give you much better advise than me but I’m conscious you haven’t heard from anyone so thought I’d reply to you.  In my mind I think all your emotions are exactly what people feel when they are grieving and although your dad is still here you are feeling your time with him is very limited.  So I think how you are feeling is completely natural.  
you also mention not being able to see him I have read/heard that people with very limited time that families might want to relax that no visiting the vulnerable.  
I hope this helps a little.  Take care xx

Hi Carly

This is a terrible situation.  As if going through the cancer diagnosis and withdrawal of treatment were not enough to bear.  I am so sorry that you cannot be with your dad.  But I agree with Dance in the Rain its worth seeing if you can be with him, even though the rules are clear for everyone, this is a extraordinary situation.  There are no other words that will help you assuage the grief, anger, heartache that you are feeling, but your dad will know you have been there for him when you needed to be, and any time wasted needs to be forgotten now.  

Take care

Hi Carly,

All of us who have incurable cancer (in my case it is also nsclc) come to a point where we have to make these "hard" decisions. As much as we always think about the impact on our loved ones and friends it really is a very personal choice. I just hope you can be there to support him on his final journey - it will mean so much to both of you

John