Coping with bad news

I have been given months to for my diagnosis and currently having treatment to provide some quality of life.  

I'm so sorry you find yourself & your family in this situation.  You sound like you have a lot to deal with especially a young toddler.  I'm sure your dad appreciates the time you spend with him and often just talking about your worries and concerns help you both come to terms with the situation.  It may seem morbid but making plans for what your dad wants for a funeral and talking about things he did when he was younger help create memories for you and may help in the days & months ahead.

I have 3 grandchildren 15, 12 & 3 and all I want from my daughters and grandchildren is to spend time with them, not necessarily doing anything but just being with them is enough.  I'm taking lots of photos with the intention of creating a photo album of memories for them.

You can always call the support line here if you need someone to talk to.

Am thinking of you love am also cancer patient and on medication to give me time with my family and my daughter is my only child as much as I love her she is making everyday as if it will be the last I know and so deis your dad he will appreciate what your doing but all he wants to see is for you to carry with your life look after your family that way he knows he has no worries over you I know me as a suffer I feel guilty about leaving her and your dad will as well just show him how strong  you are that will be all he wants sending love and prayers xxx

Hi there 

I’ve had bowel and lung cancer but your post called to my thoughts as my young family were in a similar situation 

I was pregnant when my M.I.L was diagnosed with terminal cancer 

We spent as much time as possible making memories. Holidays, trips to the Zoo, eating together as a family. 
my daughter now 40 still remembers her Grandma. We have photos and talk a lot about when she was young 

She was three when her Grandmother died which was amazing as she was given months to live 

My thought go out to you 

Best wishes 

My Mum was diagnosed 4 weeks ago with incurable but (hopefully) treatable lung cancer. She is asymptomatic so we had no warning that such a diagnosis was coming our way. 

I’m 45 years old and I know from life experiences that I’m resilient, strong and capable of coping with anything. Yet this has floored me. I still can’t believe it and talking about Mum and cancer in the same sentence doesn’t seem real. 

Someone told me I’m overwhelmed. It really hit the nail on the head and it sounds like you’re probably feeling the same. Totally overwhelmed by the prognosis, the thought of what’s going to happen, how your dad is feeling, your own feelings about it, being confronted with the reality of losing a parent. It’s a lot to cope with. And it’s ok to feel as though you’re not. 

Please reach out to one of your Dad’s McMillan nurses. It’s unnatural for me to ask for help but I called Mum’s nurse, Babs, the day after diagnosis and have done so numerous times since and I always feel like a weight has been lifted. 

And try to do something normal, even for a few minutes, that takes you out of the cancer bubble and reminds you the world is still turning and you and your Dad are still a part of it. 

I’m sorry you’re having to go through this and I know I’ll have to at some point too, but you will do it