We’ve just back from the hospital and I’m struggling to help my husband stay positive. I know it’s ok not to always be positive but it’s so sad to see, and I’m now questioning how hopeful I should be.
It’s a Squamous Cell Carcinoma, exact type is not known yet. But it has been graded T4N3M1a. (First they told him it was T4N1M0, but then when I asked him to repeat he checked again and gave us the accurate grading.)
We’re meeting with an oncologist next week, waiting for the appointment. And treatment should start the week after. Probably chemo, maybe radiotherapy. We’ve been told it’s not curable, and no operation is available but then got told this could change if it shrinks and then is operable later. Does that mean he’s terminally ill? Or not?
My husband is not hopeful at all. Whereas I’ve said in front of the consultant that it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s going to die. The consultant who isn’t an oncologist didn’t correct me. Am I right? Is anyone out there recovering from a similar cancer and grade?
