Hi,my Father was diagnosed with lung cancer that's untreatable beginning of December 2023. He is 82 and has been given approximately 7 to 10 months. We are caring for him at home with different nurses etc involved. The thing is I'm so confused by it all nobody really tells us what to expect over the coming months. On the one hand his mind is sharp as a tack on the other hand his body is getting weaker. He has oxygen and oramorph to keep him comfortable although he hardly eats. He refuses to talk about death or see any friends or other family. I suppose what I'm looking for are other people's experiences so we at least know what to expect. Many thanks.
Hi Pike sorry to hear about your dads prognosis, I cared for my mum at home until she went into the hospice, so I know how hard this is for you.
My mum was very open about what was happening, and she planned her own funeral. It was a comfort to know we carried out her wishes.
It is hard to say what to expect with your dad, as everyone is different. Have you spoken to your dad’s GP about what to expect? You could also chat to someone at the macmillan support line on 0808 808 00 00. They are available 7 days a week from 8am until 8pm.
There are also carers groups here on the macmillan site that you might find helpful. The Carers only forum and Supporting someone with incurable cancer forum are both very supportive groups where you can connect with other people who are in a similar situation to yourself.
Wishing you and your dad all the very best.
