My poor mum has been diagnosed with lung cancer and I’m going out of my mind..
Ive read reread & read again her discharge summary
I just can’t make heads or tails of it at all, I’ve googled and read what I’ve found but it just doesn’t make much sense
It hasn’t been staged yet I don’t think
This discharge states it isn’t “curative” but it’s “indicative of primary bronchogenic neoplasma” it also says on the cover letter of the summary “single liver metastasis” which I know means has traveled but then on the next page of findings it says “suspicion hypodense lesion of metastasis” on the liver
She hasn’t had any tests yet she got admitted to hospital with SOB & chest pain but was referred at the beginning of may for a scan then had a chest X-ray last Friday and the comparisons have been made from the two.. she is due to have a pet scan next week and then in 2 weeks a biopsy
I’m not sure if I’m being deluded to the truth and don’t want to believe this is happening or if that just doesn’t make sense, I’ve never been in this situation and I want to be that support unit for my mum but I honestly don’t know what to do or think, my head is going around and around, I’ve not long had a baby who’s not even 2months old yet so I’m trying my best to keep my head above water here.. I’m not even sure if I’m writing this in the right place so I’m sorry if I’m not.. I’m just desperate for some answers I guess :( thank you for taking the time to read this I know it’s quite a lengthy post and I wish you all well
I’m so sorry your going through this, are they at least treating your mum ? Keeping her comfortable, this is such a awful time x
i just can’t cope even tho my mum is having treatment, it’s awful xx
my mum is doing ok , sad thing is she never had any symptoms on lung cancer and was fine and active xx I hate this diseaese xx
how are you coping xxxx
It’s incurable my mums undergoing radiotherapy as of next week then She has an app 2weeks after that and I’m presuming onto which ever treatment they’ve said chemo & immuno the tumour in her lung is blocking the airway completely so she’s functioning on one lung, genuinely don’t know why she’s saying this I think it’s just because she’s thinking the worst and trying to plan ahead although I wish she wouldn’t! But it maybe her way of dotting the I’s and crossing the t’s
I’m coping just about it’s tiring splitting myself in 2 but she’s my mum and I’d have it no other way, can’t get away from it in my sleep either keep dreaming about my mum or the cancer and my mum it’s sh!t..x
I know what u mean about the sleep and the dreams now as mine are like this ,,
my mums won’t be cured either but it’s treatable and the immunotherapy is suppose to be amazing treatment for lung cancer,
we got to have hope and faith in the science and medicines x
my mum won’t discuss any of this stuff liek your mum is , x xx
its constantly here with us in the bk of your mind even when your doing other things xxxx
im here if u need to chat xxxx
They’re horrible aren’t they, I’m presuming my mums is treatable too as she’s under going treatment?! I just don’t know why she’s going about it this way I suppose the mind works in weird ways I’m just hoping she doesn’t let cancer define her she’s so much more than that word, my mums on her own so she doesn’t have a partner to discuss it with which I guess why she’s being more open about her wishes in regards to that.. It is you sleep it’s there and you have those few peaceful minutes when you wake when you haven’t dreamt of cancer then you come round and your snapped back into reality.. I’m just praying so hard that this therapy works for her and helps her and stops it in its tracks..x
The treatment will work , the immunotherapy will be amazing , we have to believe in the medicine x
oh no your Mum being on her own so hard , my mum has a partner she been with 19 years mu dad died suddenly of a blood cloth when my mum was 45,
if Gary weren’t there looking after my mum and helping her I don’t know how we would Deal with it all, x
Hi Train Spotter, Yes he's good considering but had a heart attack last week, recovering really well. One thing after another. Hows you Mum . Love to you xx
Ohhh my ,, a heart attack .. maybe alL this has caused this, I wish him a speedy recovery from teh heart attack . And sending him lots of love and hugs xxx
thinking of u xx
Sorry to hear about the heart attack.. our parents don’t do things by halves do they! How are your mum & dad getting on? And of course how are you? My mums due to start radiotherapy this week my nerves are wracked but she’s just found out she’s got an infection in her tooth (again, this is more or less how we found out about the cancer so I’m sh!tting it to say the least even more!) she’s on antibiotics just hoping this doesn’t push the radio date back!..x
Definitely what are they like lol, Mum was away for her biopsy's today, so now it the waiting game. I'm really trying to take one day at a time.
Sorry you Mum's got another infection in her tooth. I hope for both you and your Mum's sake everything goes ahead. Keep me posted on how she is doing, poor soul..... Bless both your hearts and Love to you both xx
Hi, How is your Mum and how are you. Thinking of you xx
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