Hi , I have been married to my husband for 6 years and he is my rock, best friend after leaving a 30 year not so good relationship . We knew two weeks ago that he has bowel cancer after a colonoscopy identified a small growth . We had prepared ourselves for operations , chemotherapy , but after an appointment with the consultant our world has been turned upside down!!!
we were told they had identified 4 secondary cancers on his liver none in his lungs . He was offered chemotherapy, if he did not want this therapy he would only have 3-4 months to live . His daughter is getting married in Aug so he is fighting to make this date .
I am going to support him , his 4 children and my 3 but I feel devastated as we were looking forward to the next 10-20 years together he is 63 & I am 64. He has retired and I was considering this shortly , I know I will come through this but any advice would be appreciated .
Hi Shocked wife and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I'm sorry to read that your husband has recently been told that his bowel cancer has spread to his liver and it's natural to feel as you do.
I'm not a member of this group but noticed that your post hadn't had any replies yet. Responding to you will 'bump' it back to the top of the discussion list again.
You might also like to join and post in the bowel cancer group where you'll find others whose cancer has spread. To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could put something about your husband's diagnosis and proposed treatment into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
Hi, Shocked wife sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis. I'm hoping my story will give you both some hope. I was the same age as your husband when I was diagnosed with bowel cancer with spread to the liver back in 2013 and I am still here and feeling very well. Please click on my name and read my profile as it is a bit long winded to write it all again. Stay strong...you have a different future ahead of you now and it might be a rough ride in parts but you sound positive and it's good to see you write that you know you will get through it. Please message me if you need any information of any sort or even if you just want to vent on the situation you find yourselves in.
Diane
Thank you for your reply and your story gives us hope . We have been to see an oncologist now who has given correct information . Cancer is in the 9 sections of my husbands liver and the plan is to have chemotherapy -Folfox via a PICC line in a 12 day cycle to try to clear 2 sections . If this can be achieved then they will consider surgery in the liver and the bowel , this would give us a 50/50 chance . Also consultant was waiting for biomarkers on the cancer to be able to add another therapy to the chemo . If this chemotherapy doesn’t work they will try other combinations . PIC line is being put in on 12th Dec and chemo to start in the 19th , first day in local hospital for 4-5 hours then home with a pump for the other two days . We are staying positive .
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