15 years after my mother died of pancreatic cancer, my uncle now has it. He's been told that he has 3-6 months to live. We are very close. He's not much older than me. He's unmarried and lives next-door to me with my stepfather. Today was his first round of Abraxane chemo. He had a permanent line fitted on Monday todrain his ascites. A little earlier he had a funny turn and was shaking uncontrollably. I called the hospital immediately, they seemed to think that he was in shock. The anxiety of his distress is enough to make you bonkers isn't it? My dad is quite out of his mind with terror, having already been through this once with my mother.
I wish with all my heart that my uncle would die in his sleep. It would be horrific shock to us but no more fear, pain and suffering for my uncle. I know that sounds very strange - but watching someone you love suffer is intolerable.
Hi Vicbach and welcome to the online community
I'm very sorry to read that you've been told that your uncle has incurable pancreatic cancer and it's natural that it's brought up all sorts of emotions for you.
I can see that you've also joined the pancreatic cancer group which is a great place to ask questions and share experiences about the treatment that your uncle may be going through.
You might also like to join the supporting someone with incurable cancer group as it's a safe place to discuss your emotions about the prospect of losing your uncle with others who will understand exactly what you're going through, as well as discuss practical issues about palliative care and end of life. If you'd like to do this then clicking on the link I've created will take you straight there where you can join and post in the same way as you did here.
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