Hi all, firstly thank you for taking the time to read this, secondly my mum was diagnosed over a year ago with liver cancer. Just last week she was told no more treatment could be given to her, as her platelets were dangerously low and her body was fighting off treatment making her worse. Of course she has been told she is now palliative care. She has acities too which seems to be getting worse and now has to have cognitive tests as she doesn’t seem to be retaining information or is getting very confused with simple things. She is being very stubborn allowing family to support her but I’m worried if she doesn’t allow us to be there, when she does get worse she isn’t going to contact anyone and will be alone. I guess I’m asking if anyone has any tips on how I can make her see she doesn’t need to keep things from us, we are there to help and support her through what ever time we have left, we don’t want to be pushy or interfere, we just want to help. I still don’t think I have taken it in properly that my mum could be leaving me in the next year, I think I’ve just shut it out in order to help mum but feel I need to try get things in order for her as she just won’t.
I don’t know what else to say really, but thank you.
I'm really sorry to read that your mum has recently been told that her treatment will be stopping and I can completely understand how devastating this must be for the whole family.
As you know, the online community is divided up into different support groups so I hope you don't mind me suggesting that you join and post in the supporting someone with incurable cancer group as this will give you the opportunity to talk to others to find out how they have coped.
If you'd like to do this just click on the link I've created and then join and post in the same way as you did here. You can also join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
When you feel up to it it would be good if you could pop something about your mum's diagnosis and treatment so far into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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