Hi.
My mother in law broke the news to us today that they have found cancer cells in her liver so this news is still sinking in, I wish I could say I kept a strong front on for her but once she got emotional I broke because she is like my mum and even the thought of life without her isn't barrable.
She has an appointment Monday where we will get more information and the what next with treatments etc etc.
We have two children who are incredibly close with her and just looking at them knowing what I know is breaking my heart! Myself and my mother in law have made the decision not to tell them till after Mondays appointment in case they have questions or worry's then we can at least try our best to answer them.
My question for anyone who may be in the same situation, how did you tell your children and support them? My husband (her son) just shuts down, holds his emotions in and will have less patients for everyone and everything so I know he is best being given space unless he tells me otherwise and anything that gets taken out on me I will 100% let it go but he has had to deal with cancer before with her (Breast) before I met him so I can't even imagine his pain and don't want him to feel he hast to also deal with telling our children and handling their emotions.
Many thanks.
From someone who isn't good or comfortable with emotions of others.
Hi Em.Millie welcome to the forum and sorry to hear what is happening for you and your family right now.
Im wondering if you felt able to give the Macmillan Line a call as they have resources available that they could maybe send out to you about talking to children about Cancer. Im not sure what age the children are but I think you are right not saying anything until you know what the plan is . 08088080000. x
gail
Hello Em.Millie
Thank you for reaching out here, it certainly is not easy to learn of a loved ones diagnosis, but it is additionally difficult when you have children to consider.
As Granny59 has already mentioned, giving the helpline a call may be helpful for you.
Also you can read THIS which will give you some guidance on how children may react to the news of a loved one with cancer. Additional support can be found and may help with finding some comfort in others emotions.
This Family and Friends forum is also a friendly supportive place to join.
One more Link, which will lead you to information on supporting someone, a great tool for your own support as well as guidance to help you help her.
I hope your Mother in Law gets some good news and try not to google too much.. everyone is different,
Sending strength to your family
Lowe'
