After the removal of a tumour on his liver last year, my partner has now been told that he has a metastasised lesion on his sacrum. He has had radiotherapy and is due to have a further scan in 3 weeks (Corona virus permitting). I suppose what I really want to know (and obviously nobody can tell me) is how long his life expectancy is likely to be and will any drugs improve life quality or are they aimed at longevity? Bit in the dark and trying to manage expectations....
Hi Debra 146 and welcome to the online community
I'm very sorry to read that your partner's liver cancer has spread to his sacrum. It must be a very worrying time for you both.
As you've quite rightly said no one here is going to be able to predict how long your partner will live. Even the professionals have difficulty with this as they can only base their estimation on what current statistics tell them. As you'll be aware some people live longer than the average while others, sadly, don't.
Your partner's doctors will base their treatment recommendations on how well they expect him to tolerate the drugs as they won't want to give him something that will make him feel worse. With any treatment your partner can always start it and then stop if he finds the side effects are too great.
Can I recommend that you also join the supporting someone with incurable cancer group which is a safe and supportive place to share your worries as well as talk about the practical aspects of looking after someone with an incurable diagnosis.
To join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'join this group' on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post questions after selecting 'start a discussion' and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
When you have a minute it would be useful if could pop something about your partner's journey so far into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Edit Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
Sending a supportive (((hug)))
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