Kidney cancer wife

Hello Clairey,

Am very sorry to see that your husband has been diagnosed with renal cancer. I see that he is having some immunotherapy and anti cancer drugs and I hope that they are helping him and that he is not having too many side effects from them. 

I can understand that you feel like you are missing him and that life has changed. Being on a cancer journey sort of takes over everything. I still don't really know where last year has gone. It seemed and endless round of hospital appointments, tests and treatments. I hope that you are both getting good support from his CNS and his hospital. I wonder if your husband has any breaks in his treatments- I had a couple of weeks here and there and it did make a bit of a difference.

There is another forum on here that you may want to have a look at. It is aimed at people who are caring for a loved one with cancer and I wonder whether this may be of help for you from a carer's point of view. I will pop a link below.

Carers only forum - Macmillan Online Community

I hope this helps a little. If there is anything else that you need please do ask.

Jane

Hi - I can fully associate how you’re feeling-I’ve started getting counselling as it’s so hard when you’re caring for someone with this rotten illness xx

I understand the phrase 'he's here, but life is so different' and feel the same way about my husband who has secondary renal cancer in the pelvic bone. We cannot plan ahead and everything we had looked forward to has been cancelled. Its so hard to keep positive for their sake, but current life goes on and we have to seek some solace in the small everyday things that we can enjoy together. I found a new appreciation for the simple things and just sitting and reminiscing about good times we have shared. You kind of get more philosophical and stoical. There is a clarity in that you can't stand any crap, deceit, winging about trivial things and your love for those special people is greater. Deborah James book, 'F*ck you cancer' is worth a read. All the best to you both.