We are struggling to cope with the new diagnosis of my wife with 'incurable' Transitional Cell Carcinoma in the renal pelvis which has metastasised to the lymph nodes.
Having led reasonably healthy lives (we both trained as PE teachers) she has survived a few major health crises without problems so the 'incurable' bit is difficult to come to terms with. This is with retiring to the South Coast into a road full of people with health issues and being the healthy ones on the block!
Currently awaiting 'Palliative Chemo' and undergoing lots of tests.
We have been referred on to Oncology and told surgery is not a good option but had few technical details. We would like to be sure that surgery is not a better option so want to seek a second opinion. Neither GP nor hospital want to recommend anyone, saying we just need to refer ourselves. Who to? How do we choose which institution to approach?
Any hints would be most welcome
