How to tell the children

Hi Mark82 welcome to the forum and I am sorry to hear about whats been happening for you.  I wonder if you felt  able to you could give the Macmillan Line a call as they have advisors there who could maybe offer some suggestions re talking to the children. I am aware that they used to do booklets as well about how to explain it all to children but not sure what age they go up to but worth an ask. 08088080000. Opens tomorrow at 8am. 

Sorry to hear this news. I had my left kidney removed too. 

How are you doing? Do you have support from a partner!? I don't have children, however I can only imagine how hard it'll be to tell them. 

Definitely speak to the macmillan team. They may have some good advice. 

Hiya

When did you have yours removed and how is your recovery going?

I'm still not there with having it done I'd I'm honest, still thinking they will call and say it's not needed 

Yes my wife is there to support me and the children it's just what and how we tell them

That's great that you do have some support! Your wife will be with you all the way! 

I feel for you both.. they're still quite young and it's how they will process it or even understand it.. I'm sure together you will find a way!! 

My recovery is going ok, it was removed 8 weeks ago. It hasn't been easy both physically, emotionally and mentally , however I return to work on Wednesday 21/8!!! Eek  

Glad to hear your recover has gone well!

Yes I'm under no illusions this is going to be hard both mentally and physically just at the moment not come to terms with what's happening. I am away at the moment but I get home next week so we are sure it will hit me at the pre op next Wednesday 

Hi Mark82, 

I hope that you and your wife are ok. 

How are you feeling? Good luck with the pre op assessment tomorrow 

How did your pre op go? 

Hi Mark I'm in the exact situation as you.

I was already having an op when the tumour was found so we kind of drip fed the kids.

After the consultant appointment I told then in a very practical upbeat way. Look mums kidney lump is probably cancer and it's coming out! All crossed that's the end of it.

Shocked as got a call today. Pre op tomorrow and op next week. Not sure how they will process this... youngest gone into year 7 this last 10 days and eldest year 11 x feel so sad for them x

Unfortunately most people and of course all children hear the C word and freak out completely. In fact so much more can be done these days and while it can be a catastrophic disease it is often something much less immediate or impactful. Fear and the unknown unknowns make it worse. I told some people I was going into hospital for some tests. They still do not know. I am one of the lucky ones.