Depressiin

Can someone change the title to "Depression" for me there is obvs a typo and l do not know how to correct it

Hi Adrian. Sorry you are experiencing this on top of dealing with your cancer diagnosis and treatment. I had depression myself around 13 years ago when my husband was made redundant, there was no big redundancy package just statutory payment after 40 odd years service. unfortunately I can’t really help or know how to change the title but wanted you to know we are here as you are supportive of us all the time. Take it easy Aileen xx

Thanks Aileen, actually l quite like the word l have "typo" created. I may even enter it as a new word for The Oxford Dictionary!

Yes this depressiin is definitely connected to food and may be as a result of lack of enzymes or other way round following on from chemo. What l have found strange re on going care, is that my chemo unit at Sountend Hsp tell me that as l have finished chemo l should defer to my oncologist or my local GP; really washing their hands of me as l am out of chemo. I can see the sense but it does leave you in limbo.

Hey ho "worse things happen at sea", as my sage of a Mother oft droned on and on about 

Keep safe and thanks for responding. Love to you and your husband. Adrian

Hi Adrian,

Are you finding it hard at the moment do you feel they have just dropped you because you are not on chemo at the moment, have they not offered you immunotherapy, are you still at your caravan by the sea, it is amazing what a change of scenery can do for you, you know we are all here for you if you are feeling down try to stay positive sending you hugs and best wishes Sandy xx

Well yes l think that's the reason and really very understandable, bearing in mind how many people are on active chemo! I have not been offered immunotherapy which l took as a positive move and  an dication that no further treatment was required at the moment. To be honest l was too much of a coward to ask the question but accepted the "non offer" and put my own interpretation on it.  Still athe caravan  (or place on the Suffolk Coast!!!  Sounds soo much posher, don't cha know) Nevertheless time spent in the static is always a good time. Love to you Sandy and anyone else reading my meanderings. Love Adrian 

Hello Adrian. I've been recently diagnosed and biopsied, so waiting to see what treatment I'm in for. I'd be interested to know what's been happening with you since you were meandering in your static caravan. I do a bit of touring caravanning, and hoping to get on the road a few more times yet. I have two grown up children and I'm trying to pluck up the courage to tell them about my diagnosis. I'll be doing that in the next couple of days. I'm meandering now, so I'll stop now. Best Wishes Adrian   Erchie.

Hi Erchie, 0230,  having a cup of tea and doing a crossword,easy Telegraph. I am a poor sleeper  , shift work did that. My wife and l had a touring caravan for 30 yrs. Always went to the same county. Suffolk! Hence alias. Loved it so much wd bought a static 4 yrs ago. It's a 120 min drive from home and one of my family look after the house and garden for us when we go to it. 

Telling my 50 yr old adult children was cathartic for me and after the initial shock (weren't we all) they  were great and after a while, if your situation permits it, their lives get back to normal.

The interesting part was writing a letter to each of my 14yr old grand daughters. They really took it in their stride (their parents tell me) The letters are treasured, l am told. And l felt that the cancer subject could come up in conv. without them being excluded. Not that it is a big discussion point . I suspect that most of it goes way over their heads.

Having said all that l am very much " a trouble shared is a trouble halved" type of person. Or is it  "share my anguish" ?

There is advice on line this site and of course each person is different. You'll know in your heart what is right for you and your family. I wish you well my friend   love to you Adrian

Hi Adrian, it sounds lovely where you are. We are going away at the beginning of July and i am really looking forward to it. Just a change of scenery really. I remember Telling my girls 17 years ago about the cancer. Was so awful but they were very upbeat and that really helped, your grandchildren sound great kids too. This time it’s harder because as you know our eldest passed away this time last year so it’s doubly difficult. Am convinced the trauma kicked it all off again.  so sorry for our youngest having to cope alone although she lives with her fiancé and he is a great lad thank god. Just a shame it’s 300 miles from us but we keep in constant touch.

started my immunotherapy yesterday, all okay but yet tons more tablets to take. Me too about trouble shared is a trouble halved so reaching bout on here is good for me. Love to all Aileen xx

Hi gang,

 I am just looking at your conversations when I got my diagnosis I had to explain to my husband first as he was in the car park waiting for me because of Covid, like you I think the hardest thing was telling the family and close friends, Gooner I am so pleased you have started your immunotherapy, Adrian so sorry you have problems sleeping can’t be fun and Erchie once you have a treatment plan you will feel a lot better, it is interesting that Erchie and Adrian are caravanners we are campervaners we have been for the last nine years, we actually updated our campervan in March 2019 for more storeage for longer trips, we are hoping to get away next month all being well we just have to work around Hospital appointments, I hope you are all enjoying the sunshine and have a lovely weekend love Sandy xx

Hello again Sandy. Good to know you're still getting out and about in your campervan. Nice to feel you still have things to look forward to,. A future. So hoping to get a few trips yet also with my Carol. Keep movin' Sandy, all the best. Erchie