Feeling low

Hi 

I do hope you are able to access talking therapies. I guess it’s a lot of complex emotions we go through from diagnosis to treatment and there is a sudden end to communication from removal. Also we all deal with this differently. You will have been carrying a lot of how you were feeling and putting a brave face on for the children. It’s some times a learnt social norm we have someone asks how are you .. we say fine. But really we would rather say not great actually I’ve had the operation it took a while to recover and I feel rough just now … and I just wanted to say you’ve been through a lot and you’ve survived it, you’ve had to look at all the negative scenarios that go with Cancer and come through it! These are no mean feats … at the same time it all goes back to making tea, reading stories, helping with homework, doing houses work as if that’s done now! but it sounds like that’s not done but the grief for the old version of you is find a new stronger version to move forward with! It takes time and talking therapies might just give you that safe space to talk out the good and the difficult … 

take good care and remember it’s ok to be kind to yourself !!

Your post reminded me of this link that was shared a lot on here.  But I haven't seen it shared recently. 

https://www.workingwithcancer.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/After-the-treatment-finishes-then-what.pdf 

Having cancer is no trivial thing - your emotions have been through the wringer and it's not a simple case of brushing yourself down and carrying on as normal.  Is there ever a "normal" after cancer?

You could phone up the helpline here for a chat. They always have something positive to suggest. Do you have a Maggie's near you?  Similarly, they are lovely there too.  

It's tough with kids, espcially U10s becaue you think of them first.   Be kind to yourself and sending hugs.  

Thank you for that link, it was a very interesting read. I probably am being too hard on myself, its just so difficult when you want your old life back but this diagnosis has changed everything. I know i have to be more patient but I just don't want to miss out on any time with my children. 

Unfortunately there's no magpies near me.