Hi all,
my hubby was diagnosed with a 9.5cm tumour on his left kidney in July this year and had a radical nephrectomy in August during which they ruptured the tumour - we were told it was dealt with and cleaned.
His pathology showed it as T3a N0 M0 predominately grade 2 cells, focal grade 3 (can anyone please explain what the focal bit means?).
He suffered a wound infection about three weeks after the op which was treated with antibiotics.
In the last two weeks he has become really bloated with gas and you can see his tummy is bloated. He was admitted to A&E this Tuesday and given a CT scan.
He has been told there is a small mass where the kidney was removed which could be a recurrence or something to do with the op - would a recurrence show so soon?
Also where his laproscopic wound is they said there is some internal blood an necrosis. He now has to wait in hospital until Monday (it's now thusday) for their MDT meeting to discuss and he hasn't been given any further info such as what would be the options if it was recurrence etc.
Back to being so worried and waiting :(
Thanks for taking the time to read
Oh my goodness. I am so so sorry 
The only thing I can say from experience is take your time telling your boys. They don’t need to know today. Give yourself a bit of headspace first. I made this mistake with my son who was 14 second time round. I told him it had come back the day I found out and I didn’t make a particularly good job of it. I got too upset to be able to reassure him well. I was cross with myself that I had told him so quickly after finding out myself. The result was he went to google and spent the next three months thinking I would die imminently. I’ve only just found that out three years later and I feel awful about it.
immunology has the potential to be great. Someone has to be in the 50% that works. Your husband is young and strong and hopefully that will stand him in good stead.
I know we will all be keeping you in our thoughts for the very best outcome.
