Help to encourage eating and drinking?

Hello polar bear ( good name)

it’s lovely that you are looking out for your dad.You must be concerned about him. Have you mentioned to the  doctor that your dad is not eating? Here is a general leaflet about older people and eating, rather than a specific one for cancer, but it may help.

https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/healthy-weight/managing-your-weight/keeping-your-weight-up-in-later-life/

Hope he goes on okay..

Best wishes, Jules x

Hi Jules

thank you for the leaflet. He is having a complan every morning and sipping milk and water. We’ve just found out that as well as the tumour on his kidney he also has T2 N1 M1 Lungs & adrenal. Although he was told by the consultant about their findings I think when the letter arrived days later it hit him hard.particularly that it’s not curable. I’m hoping that between us (family) we can encourage him to eat and drink a bit more because he’ll need as much strength as possible when the MDT come back with a treatment or palliative care plan. It’s very sad as he had skin cancer over 5years ago and thought he’d beaten it. We’re still not sure if the tumours relate back to that or are primary. 
Thanks for letting me vent. We’ll just take it a day at a time.

best wishes

Polar Bear x

Hello PB   Sometimes you just need to vent/ cry or both….that’s normal and healthy. Sounds like you have had a double whammy given that this is your dad’s second time with cancer. It will take him some time to get his head around the situation  I  expect.

Also re the letter, I think that it is different when you see it in writing. I don’t like it when I see my copy letters come from the hospital ( and I am a nurse).

It sounds as though you are a close loving family which will certainly help him. Hopefully the specialist nurse will be able to speak to him too.

Keep on ploughing through this and take each day as it comes….it’s the only way.

Do let everyone know how your dad is getting on and how you are feeling too . There are some lovely people on this forum and they may have a word of wisdom or a cheery message for you.

Big hugs, Jules xx