Hello everyone it's been a while, how is everyone?
I'm doing okay my end, I'm in therapy for PTSD and that seems to be helping a bit, I've been trying to find communities to discuss my dad's condition with others who have been through the same but have thus far been unsuccessful.
I recently visited the hospice again just to see everyone and thank them (I do this every few months.) also just to update them about my baby as well.
I think things are getting easier, I'm not sure to be honest, I can't really tell where I am in the phase of grieving but I'm better than I was.
I found out from the hospice the formal name condition of what dad passed from as I was curious, it's called acute Carotid Blowout Syndrome, CBS for short, I've searched high and low for information, support groups, bereavement help but I always find little to nothing, it's very lonely, my therapist is great but I can't put into words what happened, me and my sister talk but we're not professionals and most of the time we both just end up making ourselves more upset.
On the upside my little boy is not so little anymore! He's a big boy turning two soon! He is my everything and my world, the best thing I've ever done so far.
If anyone has any tips or advice for me please let me know if be so grateful.
Youre doing really well , concentrate on what your dad would want you to do look after your little family.
An old saying time is a great healer my dear dad diedin 1986 a whole lifetime ago, I wasn’t there when he died I was on a bus coming home from work my way of handling it we knew the end was near but I did it my way. Dont waste a moment your dad wouldn’t want you to. Today John and I were talking about my dad his memory lives on I might not talk about him daily or even think but he’s there in my heart. My dad died of lung cancer.
hugs Hazel xx
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Hazel aka RadioactiveRaz
My blog is www.radioactiveraz.wordpress.com HPV 16+ tonsil cancer Now 6 years post treatment. 35 radiotherapy 2 chemo T2N2NM.Happily getting on with living always happy to help
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I am sorry to read that you are having problems finding help and support. Try the linked forum. Maybe someone can help you find what you need. You need not be lonely, believe me.
Patrick xx
Oh me and Ollie have had a fantastic week a bit too fantastic as he's been cooked by the sun, got swimming and playgroups planned for next week we do keep very busy, I find being so busy helps take my mind off things.
I know I'll always miss dad but as you said I'd like to miss him in a way where I think of him and it's good memories, right now unfortunately it isn't, and hasn't been, but I'm being treated for it so hopefully things will change.
I hope you're doing well hazel I often think of all of you and how everyone is doing xx
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