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Are you gaining weight!?

Yes, I am, and at over 300 pounds (6 feet) I was hoping, since August, to be losing it. Which is one reason to avoid a feeding tube. I like to defy expectations, though. My consultant thinks I should be desperately ill, and grumpy. And I'm just not This is where philosophy helps. Proper Greek stuff, not the Live, Laugh, Life little book of calm gibberish. 

Try this from Epictetus " If I die now, so be it, but now is the time for lunch, so I will have lunch, and deal with dying later".

I refuse to be in the victim culture I see in the waiting room. Every day I c ount my blessings.

Brilliant way of looking at it.

I remember last year (July) I had just received my diagnosis Head and Neck cancer, at this point I was waiting for scans to see if they could find the primary site. I got the diagnosis on the Thursday and Friday night I was in a hotel with my husband waiting to compete in a triathlon on the Saturday morning. Shamefully I spent all Friday night crying, to the point my husband said i'm taking you home. I said no, going home isn't going to change anything, and I went, where I met a lady on the start line, who had just reached her 5 year all clear. I am now back competing 18 months later, still in recovery but getting there. I have had my dark days, but in all honesty the people on this forum have given such great support and encouragement. I love the quote from Epictetus, thank you :)

Steve Cat Dad said:

Yes, I am, and at over 300 pounds (6 feet) I was hoping, since August, to be losing it. Which is one reason to avoid a feeding tube. I like to defy expectations, though. My consultant thinks I should be desperately ill, and grumpy. And I'm just not

10 out of 10!

My consultant would be over the moon.

I tried desperately to accept the things I could do nothing about and just get on with it. Didn't always work. Your attitude has hit the nail on the head.

I recommend Stoic Philosophy especially the concept of Memento Mori. In other words use every moment. There are many books on it out there.

Hi Steve I think a positive attitude certainly  helps. Hmm dont know about the use every moment bit , Nothing worse than a busy fool.