Gum and tongue cancer

Kos said:

 I just get so nervous and start reaching out on this forum, it is so hard but at least I have all of you to offload, thanks.

You just keep going. It’s what we are here for. 
If you ever doubt your husband just turn your roles around. What would you do if he needed your help? 
There should be no shame or guilt in asking for help. My husband is a real stoic. He just got on with it. Both of us knew it wouldn’t be forever. 

Hi Kos

Waiting for a diagnosis can be very hard.

I was 59 when I had my first diagnosis for jaw cancer, have had another 2 occurrences since then another 2 ops and am now 71 and back to enjoying my life. That goes to show that treatment can be very successful so you need to hold onto that thought. After I told my family about my diagnosis I then just kept my head down, kept quiet and distracted myself by keeping busy while waiting for my ops and radiotherapy.I didn't want to talk about it as that made it too real. I tried not to dwell on things although that was hard as things kept creeping into my mind. I had complete trust in my lovely surgeon and knew that he would do the best for me so that was some comfort. My family were very supportive. I did have quite a few down moments and a few tears but once treatment started it got a bit easier although treatment was hard but here I am now enjoying the day and life so am very grateful for that.

Lyn

Hi, that’s such a lovely reply.  It sounds like me  in that I’d tell people and then not want to talk about it.  

Will try to hold onto to that thought that treatment can be successful.  It’s great that you are enjoying life after what you’ve been through, thank you for replying.  This is a good forum with supportive people.  I just want to be the old me not like I am now.

kos 

iveill hold on

You will be.  Just takes time the fear of the unknown is  the worst part. I’m heading towards 7 years and I’m definitely me maybe a bit kinder which is a good thing. 
hugs 

Hazel x

Thank you, the symptoms are a constant reminder of what’s going on but  I know everyone on here has been through tough times.  It’s good that you’re back to being a kinder version of yourself.

Kos 

That’s amazing Dave that you didn’t need your hearing aids, they got that wrong then!

kos