Constant thoughts of the past

Hi, sorry to hear about your cancer and your thoughts. I did have a lot of thoughts shortly after i was diagnosed and now occasionally, but now it is to do with the lack of support around to help me when I was in need practically. I have thought about the past and done a lot of thinking about how rooms were laid out, etc. I did just think it was my age (62) and that the older I got the more my thoughts would think of the past. Sometimes if its thoughts I don't like I try to forget them and think of something else, something more positive, or put on some music I like. I don't know if anything of this is helpful. I just hope you feel better soon with your memories. Kaye x

Thank you so much Kaye. Glad it's not just me! 

Hi again, glad it was helpful. Hang in there x lii

Sorry I touched the wrong keys x

I did not experience the "flashbacks" but stress causes us to do very strange things.  What I can tell you is that you are probably at the most stressful point in your cancer journey.  Once the diagnostics are complete and you have a treatment plan everything does become easier on the mind.  That said stay with us and we will have your back for you as you go through treatment.

Hi Welcome to the club none of us want to join in the first place. Can’t say I had flash backs, but to get me through treatment I used my memory bank to take me on bike rides or favourite walks ,so hang in to that thought it  May serve you during treatment. Remember h p v tumours do respond well to treatment it’s not a walk in the park but it’s doable. I was 61 when diagnosed now almost 4 years post treatment .Any questions just ask 

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You’re putting your world to rights and making sure you remember things properly. My thoughts in that direction involved my dead mother. I think it’s ok to do. When you have it right in your head it will probably stop. When I fixed my place in my past it did for me. 
You’re doing stuff you can control because there’s too much you can’t. 

Hi Steve

I am sorry to hear of your cancer diagnosis. The waiting between diagnosis and treatment is an anxious time. Head and neck cancers statistically have a good rate of recovery and you are in good hands with your medical team.

I agree with Kaye about reliving the past. It is only as I have got older that I have started to do the same and the cancer diagnosis definitely had a bearing on it.

Walking through rooms in houses where I used to live, thinking about past events with my parents and grandparents, thinking about my childhood in England. (I now live in Australia)

 I find a certain sense of order putting things in sequence. I think as Dani says it is one of the things that is controllable when everything else is uncertain. I found writing some of the things down helped me move on as my brain then didn’t feel it needed to keep going over things but there is a certain amount of comfort for me in thinking about the past and the happy times.  It is now something that I only do sporadically although the memories are always there.

I am now setting up new memories, concentrating on the day and the things I would like to do, appreciating them and trying not to let any new experiences pass me by.

It is now 3 months since my last cancer operation and I am feeling better and better every day and I know you will too once your treatment has finished.

Sending you warm hugs and positive thoughts for your treatment.

Lyn

Hi Steve

I was just having further thoughts about the issue of going over past life events.

It is also about completing a life review. Going over events in your life and saying ‘ I existed and this is what my life was about’. I think that is the reason people write autobiographies and the reason why writing some of your experiences down helps you put things in perspective.

Well that’s my take on it  anyway.

All the best

Lyn

Sophie66 said:

It is now 3 months since my last cancer operation and I am feeling better and better every day and I know you will too once your treatment has finished.

Hi Lyn

I remember the day you told us all that you were having to face this all over again, yet again. You are truly amazing. I can't believe three months have passed. I'm so pleased you are making more and more steps to getting through.You're in Autumn. It's end of Spring here. Everything is so green and the first flush of Spring blossom, the trees and dandelions, are over. My bees are getting fat, swarming and making honey for the winter. I feel you and I are going to see a few more season's roll over,....Don't you?