New and afraid

Hi Jye. Welcome to our community but so sorry you have had to find us. I’m afraid I don’t recognise your description S4N2. Do you mean stage 4 with cancer in two lymph nodes? Where is his cancer? Is he having radiotherapy as well. If you give us a little more information the replies you get will make more sense. 
It’s great you’ve come here nevertheless. Your brother will need support 

Best wishes 

Thank you for speedy reply.

Yeah, primary site is upper rhs of mouth and has been given a stage 4 assessment. 

And yes, he has 2 lymph nodes on rhs of neck and 1 on the lhs too which are confirmed as secondary sites.

The consultant has said that radiotherapy and chemotherapy will be required after operation. 

I hope this information helps

Thanks again

Hi again. 
my first tip is please stay off Google 

much of the information is inaccurate some outdated and also difficult to navigate unless you are medically qualified. You will frighten yourself to death 

Giving you chapter and verse is probably information overload at present so come back as things progress and there are lots of people here to help decipher and lend support. 
can your brother take somebody with him to his appointments? It’s easy to miss things and another pair of ears is invaluable. 
Make sure the consultants explain things you don’t understand. 
It is going to be a hard few months I’m afraid  

Best wishes. 

Hi Jye glad you’ve found is this group helps everyone. Dani’s said it all. Please keep off google vtge treatment s pretty tough but I got through it. 
Hazel 

Good evening Jye, try not to get afraid, it all sounds frightening at the moment but as the days go by appointment by appointment it gets a lot clearer. It is common practice to have radio and chemo after an operation mainly as a "belt and braces" making sure they have removed any last remnants of the tumour. When i was first diagnosed with mouth cancer in 2008 i was so surprised and shocked as i had never heard of this type of cancer. The scan will give the consultant and his/her team a clearer picture of what is happening and what they intend to do where they will help your brother as much as possible with advice and help. I used to take each day as it came trying not to think ahead too much, but we all have our own way of coping, and I'm sure you and your brother will manage to get through it all. Please let us know how things go, we will be only too pleased to offer our advice on our past experiences. Wishing you and your brother all the best, take care.

                                                                                          Chris .