Hello to all, new to this. Husband has T4N3M1 oesophageal cancer

Hello all.

Like so many, the shock, sadness and pain of finding out my husband of 32 years has esophageal cancer, at such a late stage, has changed our entire life beyond belief.  Our family, friends, work colleagues and neighbours have been amazing, not to mention the support of the team of cancer nurses at the hospital along with all the consultants who we have met.   Not being operable, because of the cancer having spread into his stomach and many nodes, he is undergoing chemotherapy.  Understandably, it has made him very sick, he has lost over 2 stone since the start of his diagnosis, he had a stent fitted and struggles to keep any food down.  If he talks for too long, he is sick, if he thinks about taking tablets or food, he is sick.  He eats food, not because he is hungry, but because he has to and then literally suffers painfully and doesn't talk for fear of gagging and throwing up, he simply goes to bed and tries not to move to try to keep the food down.  It has got so bad, the cancer advice team suggested he comes off the chemo for a week, to try to settle the sickness (his weight is plummeting) and to start back on it on Monday.  I am petrified of him going back on chemo on Monday, as he is permanently throwing up now, off chemo.  He is struggling to keep any food down and if he does manage to, he gets stomach pains which cause him so much discomfort.  While we know and expected chemo to cause nausea, I really want to know if anyone has experienced this on chemo with esophageal cancer and how they managed to maintain their weight, when everything you eat or drink literally comes back up.  I feel desperate to talk to someone, but my husband insists that it is all ok and it will come right, but after weeks of losing weight and another 3 weeks before he has a scan to see how the chemo is working in his body and we meet with someone who understands his symptoms, I am scared he cannot go on for that long without some intervention.  I wonder, has anyone else experienced this with this kind of cancer?  If so, are there any helpful tips which could help us keep food down to enable him the strength to fight this cruel disease?   Sorry if I have rambled on, I have tried to look up sickness on chemo with esophageal cancer, but I get the general sickness, which in itself is horrendous with this disease...... but I do feel that this is over and above what can be considered normal?   Thank you to anyone who replies.  I am so desperate to help him.   Much love to all of you out there........ it is reassuring to know I am not alone, but fills me with sadness there are so many of us.

Thank you again, try to always keep smiling :)