Oesophageal cancer and liver cancer

Hi Biffy 

So sorry to read the news that your hubby has two primary cancers, I can't imagine how you have coped with the shock of that, but I do hope that he is responding well to the immunotherapy. 

Palliative treatment was for me the worst words after being told of the diagnosis for my husband, I then realised that I never fully understood the concept of palliative. Although it may be that a person is unable to be cured, palliative enables people to remain stable and that stability can last for many many years. 

I understand the feeling of helplessness, it was something that I experienced and sometimes have overwhelming moments full of helplessness and dread, but this I believe is normal, understandable even. I hope that you and your husband has very many happy years together. 

Lowe'

Hi BIffy, 

I'm so sorry about your husbands diagnosis. 

My dad has recently been put in touch with the palliative care team after a recurrent oesophagel cancer diagnosis that has spread to his lymph nodes. I initially felt terrified hearing that, in my head that meant end of life and it meant we had weeks with him. I posted on here and someone posted a link to information about what palliative care means (I will try and find it and post it here!) and it was very helpful and reassuring that it is more about managing the cancer rather than it being immediately for end of life. 

It does make you feel very helpless, I try and remind myself that I can only do what is within my control and that is take things one day at time. 

Sending you love, my inbox is open if you need a chat.