Any tips for getting my stubborn other half to accept my help?
Hello Mrs 66
I suppose it depends on what type of help?
But my first steps would probably be to announce that you are in this together, you are going through something that has affected both of you in different ways, and you need to be able to support each other to understand it and get through it. You are stronger together.
Good Luck
Lowe'
Mrs 66, your other half sounds just like me. I am 69 with a large family and have always provided for them when I can. I can and have fixed most things in my life, until now. When first diagnosed with OC my first thoughts were, yes I can cope, even when told I was to have a major op, I can cope, op cancelled, chemo planned, I can cope. Then I stopped to think of all the ways my condition will affect my wife and family and realised, the effect will be huge on us all. During treatment my wife will have to cope with the potential side effects just as much as I will, she will be the one to provide the support, cook the strange food that I can tolerate, do the jobs in the house that I am to tired to do, drive me every day to my radiotherapy, amongst a million other things. We have been together 30 years and I am thankful that I still have her by my side, because even though I am a self confessed " I can do it guy", I will need her every step on my cancer journey.
john
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