Hi all,
New to the group but needed somewhere to talk.
My dad was diagnosed in March and offered surgery, which due to pre-existing heart problems he turned down.
In May, he had his first round of chemo and felt a lot better. Then he dramatically lost weight. After seeing the specialist on Tuesday, he has now had his chemo stopped and been given a few months to live with no chemo now.
My brother is taking this incredibly badly, as we all are, but I need advice on how to get him to come to terms with seeing my dad in the current condition he is in. He is well in himself, but my brother doesn't want to remember him this way.
I'm trying to stay strong for both of them, but have broken many times this week.
Any advice would be great 
Hello Lib07
Welcome to our forum, not the place that you would want to find yourself but it is a place for you to lay your words and for them to be understood.
I am sorry to read that your Dad has been diagnosed with OC and after attempting chemo, which has not worked for him, he has found that he has a few months to live. I can imagine what this news is like for all of you, and your post shows how different people react to such overpowering news.
Your brother will find his own path, it is sometimes difficult for us to understand the route another takes, but in understanding people's strengths and sensitivities we realise that there is no right or wrong way. Regret is something that we all feel, no matter what path we take.
Here is some guidelines from Macmillan for understanding your feelings when someone has cancer, which you may be able to encourage your brother to read?
Your Dad seems like a strong man, you mention that with the chemo he lost weight, have they given him any nutriment drinks to help maintain or up the weight? How is his eating, can he cope?
There are other forums on here Lib that may offer you further support, they are
Supporting someone with incurable cancer
As for breaking throughout the week, that is so understandable, it is natural to try to be strong for others, but it is both natural and necessary to allow your own emotions to be nurtured. We love deeply and a Father, Daughter bond is often the strongest, so allow your self time, and make the most of every day that you have together.
Thinking of you
Lowe'
