Heartbroken

Hi everyone, I’m absolutely devastated about my dad’s news yesterday from the oncologist that there is no treatment they can do and they will just pain manage him at home. He’s been in hospital near 3 weeks with abdominal pain which started when he had kidney stones few weeks prior to going in hospital this time around .. he had a stent in and then 6 weeks later it was removed as it was causing him real discomfort but the pain still remained. He was pain managed at home but it really got to a point where he couldn’t take it no longer and that’s why he’s was admitted back to hospital this time around.

Since being in he’s ct scans which revealed a bowel obstruction and he was vomiting feaces   Bless him it was awful! They have pumped him with super strong steroids and anti sickness and laxatives which have helped but the scan also revealed his crohns was again active and there are new tumors, he has already been through chemotherapy for esophegeal cancer which is stable and now this has reared its ugly head, the mdt meeting with oncology was confirmed to us yesterday that there is no more treatment that will give him quality of life as such and to go home with everything in place eg pain meds and palliative care.

He has been through so much and I’m just absolutely devastated this is happening to my dad I’m scared for what’s to come, how to cope, how to tell my children who are 5/7 how poorly grandad is etc 

im sorry for the long post just needed to get it off my chest!